How to Support Loved Ones in Their Weight Loss Journey: Encouraging Conversations

Dr. Melissa Beitner discusses how to have the difficult conversation

Starting a conversation about weight loss with a loved one can be a delicate matter, but it is crucial for their health and well-being. Approaching the topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgement, can make all the difference. Instead of focusing on appearance, emphasise the importance of health and longevity - ‘health gain’ rather than ‘weight loss’. Let them know that your concern stems from love and a desire to see them live a long, healthy life.

Begin the conversation by choosing the right moment and setting, ensuring privacy and comfort. Use "I" statements to express your feelings, such as, "I’ve noticed you’ve been struggling with your health lately, and I’m worried about you." Avoid blame or criticism, which can lead to defensiveness. Offer to listen and support them, showing that you’re there to help them through this journey.

It’s also important to understand that weight loss can be a complex and challenging process, both physically and emotionally. Acknowledge the difficulties they might face, and encourage them to seek professional help, such as consulting with a weight loss specialist. If they’ve tried various methods without success, it may be time to consider more comprehensive options like bariatric surgery. Highlight the benefits of such procedures, which can lead to significant and sustained weight loss and improvements in overall health.

When introducing the idea of bariatric surgery, be gentle and well-informed. Share information about the procedure, success rates, and how it could potentially change their life for the better. There are many resources available right here on this site. Remind them that this isn’t about taking the “easy way out” but about making a powerful choice to reclaim their health. Offering to attend consultations or meetings with them can also provide much-needed moral support.

Finally, be patient and respect their autonomy. Weight loss is a deeply personal journey, and the decision to pursue surgery must come from them. Continue to express your love and support, and reassure them that you’ll be there no matter what path they choose. Encouraging a loved one to take control of their health is an act of love, and with compassion and understanding, you can help them take the first steps towards a healthier, happier life.